1. Pain
is good – I have learnt that
pain is not an interruption to my story, it is a part of it and it’s an
important part of it, because pain is not only inevitable, it is also the
greatest agent of change. Suffering produces perseverance, perseverance
produces character, and character produces hope. Hope does not disappoint.
2. Pain
changes us- The thing
about childlessness is that people never think not getting pregnant is
the miracle. We all think that the miracle is in the getting pregnant. That's
the ideal. But the honest truth is that I am eagerly waiting to adopt a baby. Adoption
was never part of our plan, but I have infertility to thank for the family we
shall have. I believe that our healed hearts, sticking through this season together
and not getting pregnant was our miracle.
3. God
is interested in our hearts-
The desire to have children is not wrong, but where was it seated in my heart?
How did it define my worth and my purpose? For years I thought and believed that
having children would lead me into a life of meaning, but I have since learnt
that this is not how God defines my worth, and it’s definitely not how He defines your worth.
4. God
is sovereign- He has power
and authority over nature, earthly kings, history, angels, and demons. In His Sovereignty,
He decides how to fill your quiver, conventionally through birth, but unconventionally
through adoption and fostering. His ultimate goal is for us to bring up a godly
generation.
In Conclusion:
God's
power is not displayed only through supernatural physical healing. It takes a
far more creative and powerful God to bring beauty and healing to brokenness
that doesn't get a quick fix. Not getting the miracle we think we want can
sometimes lead to miracles that are immeasurably more than we could ask or
imagine. Our desire to adopt 3 children is proof.
